Friday, January 30, 2015

"I Can't Hear You"- says the Big Guy Up Top

“I Can’t Hear You”-says the Big Guy Up Top
  
  After the deaths of forty-four soldiers of the Philippine armed forces, by the assumed hand of Muslim forces; commentators, journalists, and even the common Juan and Juana de la Cruz have shared opinions posted on social websites and the media.  Some call for justice in the name of the families of the aggrieved, crying out even louder than the relations of those who have passed. In more personal circles and corners, persons are of the opinion that some such similar action must be carried out against the perpetrators.

    These individuals criticize the government; its head-of-state and the inaction and unresponsiveness that latter displays to this matter. They demand action to be taken. What exactly? It is similar to telling a friend whose house his neighbor ransacked that he must act accordingly to the circumstances of what wrong has been done him.

     But what exactly?

     In politics, officials in authority, beyond the awareness or comprehension of so many; may either hold an interest for their own benefit or carry on some clandestine agreement/pact with what the majority deems ‘the enemy’. Understanding this possibility will surely reveal how the ordinary citizens are ‘out of it’; with reference to the government’s undertakings. So is the commander-in-chief of the Philippine armed forces hesitant or scared of taking action against who the masses throw blame upon?

    Is the issue of misgivings the question at hand? Or maybe there is something more to it that so many eyes and ears and minds do not know.

    In addition to the aggressive protestations by a number of Filipinos; there are the pacifists who suggest that violence must not be righted by the same means. It is for justice to be responsible for: revealing and punishing those who are at the wrong. These preserve the dignity of their leaders from the sporadic criticisms flung at them. However, in the Philippines- this lone-Christian country of Asia; the virtue and doctrines heard at Mass each Sunday are not unlike the laws and mandates of the land: they are practiced every now and then; and forgotten every now and then.


    So if a bull does not want to surge ahead, it cannot be expected to. And if a hen so wishes to attack a potentially hostile entity; it cannot be discouraged. Fortunate are those who have their desires realized by means of the government’s functions or assistance.

BEEP, BEEP, BEEP: The Jitney Driver's Soul

“BEEP, BEEP, BEEP, BEEP…”: The Jitney Driver's Soul
  
   The “jitney” or “jeepney” is one of, if not the most utilized, mode of land transportation in the Philippines. It is characteristic of the Filipinos’ talent with artistry, inventiveness, and originality. This statement, as commending as it shall appear; only goes so far as to speak of the vehicle’s physical appearance: with the impressive craftsmanship of its body works; the eye-catching paint job and images ensuing from its owners’ or designers’ creatively colorful minds and, occasionally, a few additional gadgetry installed which may add to its ‘extraordinary’ countenance-if not create one for it.

    But as with everything that is inanimate: lifeless and dependent on something that HAS a soul, the ‘jitney” does need its own ‘brain’ to have a worth. Because, in spite of its beautiful façade; it is nothing like a fictional black Trans Am which can function devoid of its driver’s presence. And THE DRIVER is the heart and soul of the said passenger vehicle.

    Unlike a car battery which provides the power for the jitney’s mechanism to inspire propulsion; the driver is not dull or devoid of color. The former, as long as it has some electrical charge to contribute, will perform its ‘share of duty’ for the benefit of the whole. The latter, however; with a soul; with emotions and, occasionally (or eventually), ‘mood swings’ is a completely different matter.

    What is the reason for such?

    The tolerable answer would be “humanity”.

    Was there ever a driver of this said vehicle belonging to the middle or upper echelons of society? No. These individuals are found in plebeian or impoverished areas; living day by day with impecunious lifestyles as well as the common problems that come with it. Their struggles to continue providing for their families and keep their pride from being demeaned by society; all these personal tribulation coupled with the fact that there are myriads of others who share their plight and; eventually, who become rivals in the occupation of being a jitney driver; the constant dramatic changes to oil prices and the incessant alterations of traffic laws by the government offices which certain persons in authority tend to take advantage of, to the loss of the persistent driver.

    Other than the very individual’s personal faults; the above-mentioned are ‘additives’ which inspire public utility vehicle-‘navigators’ to “create” their own distiguishable reputation as motorists:

    -Stop in the middle of the street to let passengers get on or get off; thereby hindering traffic flow.
    -Disregard cyclists or pedestrians traversing the side of the road as they suddenly swerve toward awaiting passengers; disregarding the possibility of hitting any person in the process.
    -Over-speeding in people-infested thoroughfare.
    -Not pulling to a complete stop to allow passengers safe debarkation.
    -Temperamental when change for payments are requested by passengers.


    These are only some of the unpleasant realities concerning a great number of jitney drivers in the Philippines. Even if these traits are part of the imperfections of humanity; these persons must realize the necessity for them to enhance their qualities and that their plight should not be taken where it has no reason to be: the streets and roadways. Yet, in fairness to the devoted jitney drivers: husbands, fathers, and such; some of their faults and contemptuous shortcomings are the consequences of the very environment they encounter; or are ‘nationally’ part of.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Binan: In All Fairness

BIÑAN: In All Fairness…

   A person, neither a resident nor cognizant of Biñan, may traverse the city; taking in the environment with a negative first impression and, eventually, raise a rhetoric question tainted with sarcasm: “You call this a CITY?”
    Why so?


The National Hi-way: A Fairly Thorough Thoroughfare
    The district-turned-city, inaugurated in February 2, 2010 by a majority vote which ratified Republic Act 9740 which proposed the conversion; is accessible via three exits from the South Luzon Expressway (SLEX): Southwoods, Carmona, and Mamplasan. All these lead to the National Hi-way which shoots through three barangays of Biñan: the northernmost of Canlalay; onward to San Antonio; and finally, Platero; before entering the neighboring city of Sta. Rosa to the south. The main thoroughfare, like that of a number of routes in Manila, is plagued by frequent traffic congestion. Patriotic denizens may counter this criticism by emphasizing the same occurring in the National Capital Region (NCR); that their territory is no different from the latter with regards to this flaw.
    They shall argue that, as in Manila,
·        There are traffic patrol officers who are not located at their assigned stations; dallying at sidewalks and side stores instead of attending to the discordant flow of vehicles.
·        The lethargic repairs and renovation done on major roads are contributing factors which enhance traffic build up.
·        Damaged or unsynchronized traffic lights cause uncoordinated traffic movement, leading to vehicular accidents which, in turn, are followed by intense arguments between motorists.
·        Obstinate and undisciplined individuals, who disregard “no crossing signs” and constructed pedestrian overpasses, disturb the flow of traffic when motorist are compelled to take measures in order to avoid hitting them.

A Little of Everything
    Biñan holds the privilege of boasting the presence of recreational, educational, commercial, business and industrial establishments in its locality. Among these are:
·        Splash Island-located at San Francisco along the (SLEX); it is dubbed as the “premiere water recreational park of the Philippines”.
·        Pavilion Mall-a commercial edifice, situated between Barangay Sto. Niño and Barangay San Antonio; bears the reputation of being managed by ‘Ayala Malls’: accredited for the construction of the renowned Ayala Center at Makati City, Manila.
·        Brent International School Manila-settled at Mamplasan, Biñan in 1997, this is the fourth campus in the line of Brent schools put up in the Philippines (a); acclaimed for its Western-style education as that of its predecessors; and notable for having charge of Manny “Pacman” Pacquaio-the celebrated national prize fighter’s five children. (b)
·        One Asia Business Center-strategically located at Jubilation, New Biñan at the Mamplasan area, it is a 10-hectare state -of-the-art business and commercial hub south of Manila intended for the enhancement of economic development not only of the city of Biñan but also its neighboring provinces of Sta.Rosa, San Pedro as well as progressive provinces south of Manila.                                                                                   Unfortunately, other than the Pavilion Mall along the National Hi-way, the mentioned establishments are to be found in the outer areas of the city, making them less conspicuous to individuals who are unaware of their existence. What the latter more feasibly can take note of are the less developed or neglected sites.
    Most of the barangays which constitute Biñan have the countenance of districts of Manila such as Tondo, Quiapo, and España: with narrow side-streets and corridors barely 20 feet in breadth, lined with barrows such as parlors, pawnshops or plebeian eateries; and sidewalks plagued by vendors with their various trades spread out along the pathway, making passage difficult for both pedestrians and motorists.

 God, Man, and Country: Historical and Religious Heritage
    In line with ancient religious structures as the Manila Cathedral and Quiapo Church, the San Isidro Labrador Parish Church stands at the downtown city plaza of Barangay Poblacion. It is etymologically related to the city’s name, as the story goes:
Two Spanish missionaries-After Captain Juan de Salcedo landed in Biñan, Spanish missionaries, Padres Alfonso de Alvarado and Diego Espinar planted a wooden cross where the San Isidro Labrador church presently stands then celebrated a Thanksgiving Mass; and began baptizing curious natives. Folklore claims that the elders, in relation to the baptism performed in the area; decided to call it “Binyagan”.- a place of baptism.
The Spanish tongue found it difficult to pronounce the locally given name; and decided to brand it, instead, as “Biñan”.
     As with the Luneta Park (formerly Bagumbayan) and Fort Santiago within the walled city of Intramuros in Manila, Biñan bears a significance with regards to the life of the national hero Dr. Jose Rizal.
     In Poblacion, as well, his mother’s ancestral home; The Alberto Mansion, once stood. As a boy, Rizal moved here from Calamba to receive his first formal education under Maestro Justiniano Aquino Cruz. In October 22, 2012, the structure collapsed from its roof. As of the present, this 19th century edifice no longer stands where it used to after its recent demolition was authorized.

Some ‘Stuff’ That Dreams Are Made Of
    At Malate, Manila, the first ‘Aristocrat’ restaurant was established in the early post-war years at the conclusion of World War II; vaunting its celebrated “kare-kare” entrée, and expanding its enterprise internationally.
    ‘Tuding’s’ , a prominent eatery known for its pork chop and ‘tapsilog’ meals, had its roots established at Manabat St., Barangay San Antonio at Biñan in 1985; during the pre-EDSA Revolution period.
    Another factor which gives Biñan the privilege of being ‘geographically noted’ is their delicacy which bears a nomenclature recognized nationwide as the “Puto Biñan”. Unlike others in its classification; this rice cake is distinguishable for its flat and wide, pancake-like shape; its ingredients of salted eggs, baking powder, sugar syrup and generous topping of grated cheese; and its fluffy softness which, as patrons have given to testimony to, allows it to melt in one’s mouth.

Lords of the Flies and Of Mice and Men
    In Biñan, as in other areas of Laguna, ordinances have been raised discouraging the use of plastic bags: that paper bags should be applied in its place; and use of the common “bayong” or straw bags/baskets being one of those edicts. Such recourses concerning environmental hazards show an exaggerated disregard for OTHER causes of quandaries in the community such as wood, rubber, or the by-products of certain oil-based products and the public attitude with regards to the disposal of these objects.
    The Puregold supermarket branch at Pavilion Mall in Barangay San Antonio takes the order into practice only on Wednesdays, when it burdens customers with the difficulty of utilizing paper bags; and graces them with plastic bags on other days of the week. Citizens are not apprehended or admonished for littering and ridding themselves of their garbage in critical facilities such as creeks and waterways. And the straw bag-proposal was either short-lived or ignored.

“Come, Hell and High Water!”
     In September of 2009, and October of 2010; storms ‘Ondoy’ and ‘Pedring’ respectively made its landfall on Philippine soil. Its effects on both Biñan and Manila proved to be the source of tribulation for inhabitants of specific localities. The Morayta, España, and Recto regions in Manila, to name a few, do not have much an advantage over most of Biñan’s barangays regarding the subject of flooding and its devastation. A resident, during an interview, attested to the fact that flood water occasionally rises to chest level of residents of his height, during days of continuous rainfall or storms. (c) Manileños and Biñanenses know no difference in the common havoc brought about by this adversity to personal and business establishments.


    Any discriminating opinions against the worthiness of Biñan to be identified as a city may be considered as unfair or prejudiced; especially by those who are its native occupants. It shows its potential in keeping in stride with other major metropolis; possessing both positive and negative facets and constitutions. If its establishments and structures are not as spectacular and grandiose as that of Manila’s; its deficiencies are also retarded in comparison; and if the Philippines’ capital city has its advantages over Biñan; the latter, too, has its own over the former. As a jest: If the entrées of ‘Aristocrat’ have received acclaim in different countries of the world; Manila has had no delicacies or provisions named after, nor for, it; and the fact that Biñan has no history of overthrown heads-of-state; reinstated in public offices.
    Perhaps, in the future, there will be another period when the ‘Manila Sound’ classification will be vogue once more; and another musical group with the appellation of a sausage will practice it: composing a song about how a Filipino has found no sense of belonging in foreign countries he has visited; and a chorus that begins with the word “BIÑAN”.


Footnotes:
(a)  Brent School Baguio (1909), Brent International School Manila at Pasig (1984), Brent School Subic (1994)
(b) Emmanuel Jr. Michael, Princess, Israel and Queen Elizabeth Pacquiao
(c)  Rico Obcena,vulcanizing shop operator at Barangay San Vicente; height: 5’8”

Online sources:
-www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biñan
-www.brent.edu.ph
-http://doonposaamin.ph/articles/food-to-eat/5-delicious-things-to-remember-the puto-bintildean-for

-www.googlesearch.com

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Stay-at-home dad: A Circumstantial Transformation

Stay-at-home dad: A Circumstantial Transformation
   It is a logical fact that a man does not become a father, nor deserves that title, if he has no child. This argument is also applicable to a potential step-father with in relation to gaining a step-son. But the issue presented here is not merely focused on when a man turns into a father. It will dwell on a rank, stature, or promotion that extends farther than the mere designation of a male parent. This refers to the modern-day classification of men who are called “stay-at-home-dads/fathers”.

    There are so many diverse and specific reasons why a husband, after being assigned the label of ‘father’, mutates into a social icon which has half of opposing aspects -(as the mythical Greek creature: the CENTAUR-: half man and half horse.) As for the SAHD; he is both father AND mother simultaneously. But other than merely describing the characteristics of a stay-at-home-dad; the stimuli for their ‘evolution’ has to be noted as well.

    How do they come to be?

    The most definite answer to this question would be: CIRCUMSTANTIAL.

    There are forwarded reports of husbands who voluntarily choose to become a parent, ensconced at home; doing the common household chores and fulfilling the duties which; during more conservative ages and in nations of anachronistic cultural standards, were marked as those of a wife and a mother. Many of these men have been noted to take on work-at-home jobs; are capable of financially contributing to the family budget; and enjoying the opportunity of being able to bond and improve ties with their children. This would be a more favorable or positive way of considering the coming about of a househusband.

    Other circumstances would prove to be rather demanding and unavoidable; or unavoidably demanding. While some husbands/fathers take on the said duty by their volition, others are compelled to do so without a choice. If say, a man cannot find a job, for some reason or another, to take on the role of the family’s provider and his wife happens to have one; he has to remain at home and take on her responsibilities. Caring for their children will be no exception unless they do not have any.

    To share another realistic predicament, I would narrate of my transformation into such a type of individual. Briefly narrated: my wife and I shared an apartment at a location which was distant and, therefore, strenuously accessible for any of our families. Because she had a job and I did not, due to my disability as an epileptic-(and in spite of it); I was compelled to take on both the paternal and maternal obligations of a parent.

    Other than those narrated herein; there are so many explanations a man can offer when he is asked why, or how, he came to be a stay-at-home father. Some gain the sympathy and respect of others by it; others have to ‘face-the-music’ and take on the criticisms and censure given them by society: some given unjustly; some, the consequences of how they take on the responsibilities bestowed on them. They are accepted as noble figures, or detracted as incompetents.

    Whichever or however they are considered; they are the new social figure of the modern age.

Online sources:

    

Stay-at-home-dad: Depression- 'All in the mind? Not really.'

Stay-at-home-dad: Depression- 'All in the mind? Not really.'


    I am a ‘stay-at-home-dad’.
    During an informal meeting with a friend; the conversation lead to the topic of my duties and responsibilities as a person of the said stature. We had not known each others’ company since our days as bachelors. Because of that fact, I was not acquainted with issues concerning his personal life; and could not say exactly if he, too, had gone through the subject he had asked of my situation: “Did you go through DEPRESSION?”
    This psychological difficulty ensues from so many circumstances in life which are usually negative: a broken family; discovery of having a mortal handicap; financial problems; displeasure or discontent from the rituals of everyday life, to name a few. Being a ‘stay-at-home-dad’ qualifies to be one among these.
    In some documents/articles I came across regarding the topic of this new ‘social standing’; depression of men in these circumstances has been reported to be caused by their own doing. They tend to think too lowly of themselves; debase or lessen their own esteem and self-worth; or conjure negative beliefs and/or assumptions of relative to themselves:
·        They feel inferior compared to their spouses or other persons of the same gender who are not in share the same predicament,
·        They are of the opinion that their lives are not worth living.
·        They lack enthusiasm or interest in actions which usually bring about positive results; i.e. going out with friends, having sex, exercising, etc
    This is considered as an “inside job”-meaning, the issues that cause depression in these men are all in their mind. And, suggestively; that is also the manner of overcoming the problem: “getting their act together”; psychologically speaking. (1)
    This, however, is not consistently a fact; because it contradicts the logical aphorism: “To every effect there is a cause.” And in this case; the cause is usually the ramifications of society’s hasty and offensive judgement against men who are billeted at home.
    Countries of Western culture such as Canada, the United States and the United Kingdom have peoples who are more open-minded to the subject of SAHD’s as compared to Asian countries like Japan and South Korea (2) where traditional masculine norms are practiced by the community. But this is not to say that Western/Westernized countries are 100% devoid of critics and detractors. The shared prejudices of these individuals are presumably the general cause of depression in stay-at-home-dads.
    Consider these commonly expressed statements by society with regards to home-based fathers/husbands and it will be obvious why these are the seeds which blossom into their depressive state of mind:
·        “You know how to make a kid, but you don’t know how to find a job.”
·        In law to wife: “What did you find in this pathetic loser?”
·        Elder relations to SAHD: “In my days, the man is the head of the family and having a job gives him the ‘voice’ over his wife.”
·        Peer pressure: “Ander kay kumander”-(Filipino jest translating to ‘Intimidated by wife’)

    The means of overcoming these factors does not completely rely on the person alone; doing some form of meditation of “cleansing of the soul”. While it is advisable to refrain from having a bellicose demeanour; being part of society sometimes will make it necessary. If some fathers/husbands choose to disregard the views and traditional opinion of the community and carry out a more placid manner of upholding their honour (3); there are those who tend to be rather belligerent against those who vilify them.

    Whether a stay-at-home dad employs a subtle or an antisocial behaviour toward the cause of their ridicule; facing the latter is probably the most efficient way of avoiding or overcoming depression.

Online references:
(1)themakelifebetterguy.com

(3)http:/www.utexas.edu/features/2008

Friday, January 16, 2015

The Irony of Evolution

The Irony of Evolution
   
    Is it not an irony to humankind that the world’s current advancements and innovations have proven to be both an asset and a burden?
    Until the end of the 19th century, the mode of transportation in the Philippines depended on “literal” horse-power. That is; the strength of the tamed animal required to provide propulsion to a carriage or wagon to which it was strung. Maintenance of this means of travel, compared to modern days’ revolutionary vehicles, would be unarguably less difficult. A coachman or a farmer would only need water and grass, the talent to comprehend their steed’s moods and behavior; and the patriotism to clean the defecation they leave at certain stops.

    When people began to follow the trend of acquiring automobiles which ensued from Henry Ford’s creative knowledge and inspired by western influence; more complexities came along with it.

    Individuals who have the financial capability of purchasing a car will have to face such intricate complexities for the maintenance of their property:
  • ·        Having to register their vehicles at the Land Transportation Office (LTO); queued with others who are in their same predicament of having to wait in extensively lengthy lines leading to unsociable government employees.
  • ·        Finding or gaining knowledge of venues where repairs-electrical and mechanical, for example-can be undertaken when necessary.
  • ·        Obeying perpetually revised and/or additional mandates by the Land Transportation Franchising and Regulatory Board (LTFRB) or the LTO which will inevitably prove to be very arduous and costly in the long run.
  • ·        Learning to financially keep up with the effects of the often-rising, but seldom-dropping, prices of fuel; as well as its by-products,
  • ·        Owning the savvy to negotiate unfavorable occurrences as vehicular accidents; or apprehensions for traffic violations.


    This is but one realistic example of the subject, raised. Other than vehicles; there are computers, cell phones, ATM machines, LED televisions, etc. which may prove very demanding to maintain. The technological advancements they have unarguably provide comforts and ease in the everyday, ritualistic lifestyles of so many Filipinos. But during times when imperfections get the best of these devices; it will prove stressfuly painstaking for their owners to rectify them.

    Another truth that comes with advancement is the decline of contentment. People consistently strive to keep up with the times; making an effort to “get along” with what is vogue. Technological evolution provides temporary satiation; but dissolves it upon the introduction of a newer product.

    In the mid to late- 1990’s; the cell phone’s function was meant for calling and text alone. Come the 21st century; these devices allowed access to the internet and media sites such as radio and television stations; became vessels of amusement and social interactions (online games, Facebook, Skype, Viber, etc) and a myriad of uses unimaginable in the time of Alexander Graham Bell. During such an era of constant evolution; a satisfied individual who believes that his unit is in the latest fashion today will most likely think it obsolete tomorrow.


    Not unlike the use of nuclear radiation which contributes to the progress of medication but also has the properties to take a life; people choose to prosper by the very means that burden them….for their pleasure.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

A Pope of the People For the People in the Philippines

A Pope of the People FOR the People in the Philippines
  
   The Bible narrates of how Jesus Christ mingled with people of low moral standards and ill repute such as tax collectors and other outcasts. When given an inquiry as to why He was gracing such individuals with His presence, he replied, “People who are well do not need a doctor, but only those who are sick.” (1) This is one quality of the Lord which characterizes His fairness and compassion to mankind; and also one that could have possibly earned him the disfavour of influential personalities in the community.

    Come January 15, 2015; Pope Francis shall grace the Philippine people with his divine presence. In his itinerary is a sojourn to the province of Leyte; it’s storm-ravaged city of Tacloban whose residents still suffer the devastation brought by the super typhoon “Yolanda”, during the latter part of  2013. This would be a gesture of compassion for the unfortunate souls; with a most probable intention of assuring them of the Lord’s never-ending love and mercy.
    In relation to this event are the circumstantial criticisms aired against the attitude and behaviour of political figures; enhancing their images and reputations via their interactions with the Vicar of Christ, for the benefit of their social stature and career.

     Conceptualize then, a situation where the Pope is found amidst denizens of the slum and plebeian areas of the country; garbed in his white frock and seated at a table with drunkards; cash and cards scattered on its surface amidst shot glasses filled with cheap gin; with his companions discussing clandestine acts of infidelity. A pretentious community official approaches him and asks the reason for his demeanour. The Vatican head-of-state replies in Italian-accented Filipino: Alin ang tinutuwid: ang tuwid o ang baluktot?” (Which needs to be straightened: the straight or the crooked?)

     Political officials usually fall under the second category; but they would not want to delve into such locations where the masses may either chide them; or deliver a flood of entreaties for them to placate. With that kind of flawed philosophy; they deserve to be deemed unworthy to be in the presence of a blessed and divine icon. And with all their ill-gotten wealth and affluence gained by ignoble means; they are already well-off and should leave the Lord’s graces to be bequeathed to those who need them the most.


Reference:
      -Millennium Good News Bible, Special Year 2000 Edition   

(           Matthew 9: 12-13

Stay-At-Home-Dads: The Real-Life 'Mister Moms'

The Real-Life 'Mister Moms'
    In past centuries, anachronistic in comparison to the revolutionary, the male gender was given the reputation of being the dominant sex. With this came the obligation for men to provide for their families when they inherited the title of a husband and/or a father, by their own wilful discretion. Before the modern era, they worked as slaves in order to attain their in-law’s respect; paid tithes and had to prove they were worthy of being wed to a woman by presenting a noble source of income. Come the 20th century; its influence for the emancipation of women and their equality with men changed all that. In this new age; myriads of men prove their manhood as far as copulation is concerned. After which, their dignities may occasionally become downgraded as they are configured into “househusbands” and “flat-chested mothers”.

    These individuals are more reputedly known as “stay-at-home-dads”. The current number of these men was reported to be at two million; although this count is only attributable to unemployment.* There are other situations existent and most likely overlooked; such as a gentleman running his own business, overwhelmed in its tribulations and intricacies. Another who, in spite of his devoted efforts, earns in one month what others make in a day. Or one that is impaired with a physical handicap; making it a near impossibility for him to find a suitable job. These circumstances, at times, require them to prove their worth in a marital relationship by playing the role of maternal fathers. Yet this obligation may have various unfavorable consequences and/or issues; many of which are romantically comical but true:

·                1.They may sometimes find it arduous to gain their wives’ affection.
·                2. They are criticized behind their backs by their spouses’ acquaintances-fortunate to learn that their children do not have potential step-fathers clandestinely waiting to overthrow them.
·               3.  They occasionally (or often) are compelled to tolerate their in-laws’ enquiries of their wives thus: “What did you see in that loser?” during visits.
    
      Is it not a paradox that women, either billeted at home or sitting behind a desk, are always revered; but men are only respectable when they wear a suit and a tie instead of an apron? That they are vilified if they stand behind a kitchen counter without the title of ‘CHEF’? And that society encourages their children to address them as “slackers”; but not their wives who spend their days cross-stitching and emulating the moves of Korean aerobic-dancers on television?


    Hauntingly, this might be karma for the epoch when men treated their partners as servants and hailed them as “WOMAN” rather than “darling”. (It was the best of times, (and then) the worst of times…When a queen held a large jaw and a king, a plain face.).

    
    The fault-finders of ‘stay-at-home-dads’ must be made to realize that it is no effortless task to ferry children from one venue to another while carrying on negotiations with clients; to inspire in them the principles of moderation regarding financial assets; or patiently coerce an infant to lie still during a diaper change; among many other commitments. If the late 1900’s brought about the ‘Margaret Thatcher’s’ who figuratively inspired women to relieve themselves standing up; perhaps the present one would find a need for ‘Martin Luther King’s’ and ‘Malcolm X’s’ to defend the self-esteem of males inclined to do so sitting down.

    These statements are not intended to inspire male chauvinism or the overpowering of feminism and women’s lib. But if the latter were the agents that raised the weaker sex from their former social stature; then it would only be fair to grant the humiliated gender the opportunity to redeem themselves from their “fall from grace” by declaring their relevance in the world.
   
 

*www.athomedad.org/media-resources/statistics

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Vanity: A Sin or a Social Image

Vanity: A Sin or a Social Image
    The Papal visit is, most likely, the first notable event that will take place in the Philippines. In spite of its divine and religious nature; a few Filipino idiosyncrasies will inconspicuously be carried out; presenting something that shall seem grand while using methods which are ignoble.

“It’s not all the time.”
    When a special or important personality, or even relation, who rarely pays a visit, does so; a Filipino mentality would be to justify the extravagant expenditures for the upcoming event as a “rarity”. And because it is that; they do not see any reason to think twice about intemperance. (‘It’s not every time the boss comes over to dine with us.’; ‘The guys from the team rarely get together, and in my place this time.’; ‘Marge, the Reverend Lovejoy doesn’t do house visits all the time!’; so it’s okay to waste our budget once in a while).
    So come the Papal visit, the government officials will not think twice about utilizing the national budget and public funds to impress the entourage of the Holy Father. They will waste money on gunpowder for gun salutes; spend on audacious delicacies and entrées; and anything that is a waste of assets in order to create an image that will conceal the mediocre; or simply image of the country.

‘The kids and the dogs’
    During special occasions, a couple who is expecting a revered individual to enter their home would make sure that their children will be lectured, intimidated, or conned into behaving in the appropriate manner; and making sure any of their household pets shall appear adorable and not out of place.
    Come the visit of the Vicar of Christ in the Philippines; there are schedules in his itinerary which will require his presence in certain designated venues. Authorized personnel will then have to make certain that the enthusiastic crowds maintain peace and order as they see it an exigency for them to take part in the state affair; and that no dissenters may be allowed to express their comments/views contrary to the collective ambience. In order to do such; the authorities will have to set out employees of the Philippine National Police and the MMDA who do not have beer bellies or have physical appearances that suggests incompetence with their performances.

Sweeping Under the Rug
    The quickest way to make a venue appear spic and span is to ‘sweep the dirt under the rug’. This creates a deception which suggests that one, or a few areas, of the residency is commendable-only those which are certain to be put into focus; and the other less relevant are left as untidy as they are.
    The streets and thoroughfares, which the Pope is sure to tread in order to fulfil his scheduled Philippine odyssey, shall be attended to that these shall not appear unpleasant or prove annoying to his sojourn. Roxas Boulevard , the streets and side-roads of España, as well as the various paths leading to the disaster area of Tacloban shall be rid of traffic, trash and other ‘eyesores’; but no funds will be given out to tidy and renovate other sectors of the country which are not concerned with the papal visit.

“Put on your best dress, honey.”
       As with most citizens of other countries; the Filipinos also follow the trend of appearing fashionable and grand upon the arrival of guests or attendance of social functions. Politicians and persons of stature, especially those who are certain to enact hypocritical roles when meeting the Pope in person, shall already be off to reputed fashion designers as Rajo Laurel, Inno Sotto, or Monique Lhuiller before the arrival of the holy party; getting garments customized for their physical features that they may appear alluring and vainly noteworthy.
    Yes. Let the nationalistic ‘barong tagalogs’ and the ‘baro’t sayas’ conceal their true unpatriotic personalities and hearts.

“Make sure the neighbours can see.”
    Another reputed quality of the habitants of the Philippines is their ardour for outdoing one another. This is the term usually called “patalbugan”. When festivities or special occasions take place; they want to make sure that what they have in their possession, or what occurs concerning them, is more ostentatious in comparison to that of their fellowmen. And what better way is there to suggest that one’s neighbours are inferior, except getting their attention? Since the Philippines is the most renowned, if not the only, Christian country in Asia; the local media will surely allow international networks around the world to receive videos and images of Pope Francis’ social rounds of the country. It may have the intention of enhancing his eminence’s image as a “Pope of the People”; but there is also the undeniable, underlying intention of showing off to the world that such a dignified person has decided to frequent the nation.


    Filipinos are commendable for their perseverance to uphold the slogan which announces “It’s more fun in the Philippines” in order to swank a pretentious identity which contradicts itself; and they may just inspire the Roman authorities to move the Vatican to Manila in the process.

Living: A Waste of Time?

Living: A Waste of Time?
   Philosophy was the bachelor degree I had completed in college. Though it did not make me wiser in real life and practical issues, it did open my mind to welcome discussions about different topics; and not remain a ‘one-track’-minded person. It was also my cross, perhaps my DUTY; as I became the only person who could sit with my near-senile father and discuss his views; something which no one had the patience to do.
    The question he always asked, as countless were the times we had discussed it; was “Why do we have to live; and then die?”
    He was not asking for the meaning of life; or the end of it. He wanted to understand the ‘REASON’ why people had to go through struggles; endless trials and tribulations; or even strove to attain their objectives, only to experience death’s inevitable arrival.
    Attempting to satiate his obstinately persistent enquiry; I told him that there is no “one, final ultimate answer” to the subject of his meditation. Each person created his or her own answers as to why do what they do. His rebuttal was to claim that people do act because of their personal reasons: they work to support their families; they exert much effort to gain fame and fortune; they commit wrongs against their neighbours to have an advantage over them; noble or shameful actions for the realization of objectives; after which, when their time on this earth has come; what were all those ‘reasons/goals/ambitions’ for?
    My best guess was for the intention of gaining immortality; so that they shall be revered and respected for their accomplishments. Still, attaining this concept of a perpetual existence is still a reason for doing an act. But it does not explain the relevance of its attainment.
    So why then are people put on this earth to chase their dreams or fulfil their obligations; only to die later in life? Was it not all for naught? Numerous individuals will counter this argument as one that is negative, because they are too scared to face an unanswered truth; much like persons who dislike an endless saga the conclusion of which they fear they will never know. Hence they will fabricate an end; draw boundaries in a road of infinity; in order to appease their souls. But then, the challenge would be to ask them why they have to placate themselves only to meet their demise? Is life a waste of time and effort?
    My father was often despised or rejected whenever he asked such questions. Of course, he had to learn when the proper time was to ask it; as he usually brought the subject up like an old man continuously bragging about encyclopaedias and almanacs in the age of computerized research methods. But he deserves credit for being at an age when death is more ominous, yet does not choose to fool himself  with finite answers; even if he knows he may never find ‘the ultimate reason’. Perhaps it is because I offered him a contention as well…

    I asked him “What is your reason for knowing why we have to live, and then die?”

Thursday, January 1, 2015

An Ambiguity: Man's Image of God

An Ambiguity: Man 's Image of God
    Having attended a number of Masses and heard countless evangelistic sermons and shared explanations; it has become difficult for me to forget the saying which goes, “The Lord made man in His image and likeness”. Practically, such a statement would be a contradiction to reality since each person has his, or her, individuality. What then would the Lord’s physical appearance be but a myriad of combined various images; perhaps as that of one of Homer’s creations?
    Setting aside such juvenile enquiries; the image and likeness of God can be considered in terms of characteristics. Religious teachers and spiritual leaders preach of virtues and principles: love, patience, generosity, compassion, wisdom, etc and that each person in this world is endowed with these. However, individuals also have their own imperfections and faults. Shall God be given credit for this as well?  If said flaws are to be attributed to the devil; then the next question would be ‘Did Satan also create man in his image?’
     If the Lord’s omnipotence and divine magnitude describes Him as perfect; the teachings of men contrast themselves when their own words suggest that God is a cluster of multitudinous contradictions. A perfect entity composed of the opposing characteristics of humanity.
    This argument would be from the standpoint of man saying that he is fashioned as a replica of the Lord’s characteristics. But let the people of this world take into consideration the different beliefs and religious standpoints of those existent with his. Would the Christian not notice how different Allah seems with regards to his ‘Mohemmedan’ followers; and vice-versa if the Muslims, too, were taught such an axiom about divine images?
    One flaw of religion is the fact that, as noble and honourable as the results of its teachings can be; its methods of inspiring believers can sometimes be bewildering. And if some ardent spiritual leader will suggest that, with religion; the heart must be used in place of the mind; how then can the followers understand the scripts delivered to them if they rely on emotions instead of logic?

    The inconsistencies of lectures and teachings concerning religions are not by the hand of the Lord; but by that of man, trying to comprehend something way too distant for his mind to grasp. A on-site television reporter might just be easier to fathom.